Speaking with a friend of mine yesterday and this morning, just make me wonder why some guys go through a lot of ordeal to prove a point to some girls. A Corper friend of mine told me how his girlfriend asked him to buy her an IPhone 7 (which is actually the craze of most girls now), I laughed and asked him how he can do that.
Him; Angela, the annoying part is, she didn't even ask me the type of phone I'm using and then she expects me to use all my savings to get her just a phone. I'm breaking up with her!
Guys, you really don't need to put yourself under pressure to prove a point to a girl. Like I told a friend, if you need to go to heaven and back to earth to prove to a girl why she needs to date you, then she is not worth it.
Every woman should know what she wants, so when you show up, if you fit-in, fine! if not walk away proudly not fitting into her Values and find your QUEEN, rather than feeling defeated like you just lost a major battle.
If I were a guy, I would work on myself so much that, when I present my case and you don't like it, I would take a bow and move on, but in the process of presenting my case, I won't let no girl pour water on me, slap me or even insult me just to let me know how expensive she thinks she is.
Just like the saying, any guy who hits a woman is a coward, any lady who puts her man under unnecessary pressure is SELFISH!
NB; Ladies, enough of all this drama please, why belittle yourselves for things that don't really matter. You don't have to tag alongside with what society thinks you must do or have.
If Chika has an IPhone, one, you don't know how she got it and secondly, if it's her man that got her that phone, you don't know where he works.
My mum wanted a big car for so long, but didn't nag or compare Dad with other of her friends husband who could afford big cars for their wife's, but because dad knew she wanted one, he worked towards it and when she finally got hers, it was many times better and classy than her friends own.
Your major priority is to see how you can add value to a man's life, once you can and he notices your effort, trust me, he would meet most of your needs even before you ask.
Finally, Sweetie you're a beautiful piece of art and that's why when God finished creating you he said "you are good". Let's stop putting our brothers under unnecessary pressure.
Stop looking at frivolous things and look at things that matters. E.g.
1. Can this man lead me?
2. Can he provide for me?
3. Is he accountable?
4. Can I submit to him?
5. Are we going to the same direction?
6. Can he protect me?.... trust me darling, these are the kinda questions we should be asking and not
1. What's his ride?
2. How fat is your bank account?
3. How good are you in bed?
4. Can you take me on a shopping spree?
5. Can you buy me an iPhone or whatever latest phone?
Most of our Dads didn't have a dime (kobo/shi-shi) when they married our mother's... they both had to build together. This explains why your dad accord your mum with so much respect.
Stop being a mushy-mushy kinda lazy girl, who sits and wait for a man to provide all her needs or who works, saves her money and still ask her man to give her money as though she isn't working. If you want something, work towards it and get it... Truth be told, the kinda things we ask this guys even our fathers won't give it to us either.
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