There is a danger in our society which is gradually becoming a norm, and nobody is really saying anything about it, because this scourge is rarely talked about by parents, guardians or even in our religious congregation. Sometimes people are being persuaded by their friends or peer pressure and sometimes even juvenile delinquency.
My first exposure to porn was when I was in 300level, and it
was as a result of friends laughing at my naivety and not belonging to the
society which I thought knew more than I know. Trust me, if I could turn back
the hands of time, I won’t have obliged their teases, because it wasn’t worth
it darling. Doing a reflection and research, I realized how dangerous porn is
and why the devil introduces it subtlety to a person’s life, even to the very
elect and before you say “JACK”, it’s already an addiction and a lifestyle.
I will try as much as I can to do a series on this menace which
is killing people’s sexual lives and probably causing divorce. God expects us
to have a great sex life, that’s why His word says ‘’’Marriage is honourable
with the bed undefiled’, but the devil always tries to imitate and thus cause
confusion, but I say ENOUGH to his stupid antics, because I plan to expose him
and his cohorts, so ride with me on this trip, and please keep an open mind.
Porn Means You Can’t
Get Aroused by “Just” Your Spouse. Porn
will also wreck the arousal process in
your brain and end up wrecking your sex life in marriage. When it’s accompanied by orgasm (sexual release
through masturbation), then a chemical reaction happens and hormones are
released. In effect, our brains start to associate arousal with an image, an
idea, or a video, rather than a person.
The effects of porn
are devastating, for instance, when you don’t watch porn and save yourself until
marriage, then all of those chemicals and hormones are released for the first
time when you’re with your spouse, and it causes you to bond intensely (and
sexually) to your spouse. But when you spend a ton of time teaching your brain
to associate arousal and release with pornography, your brain can’t associate
arousal and release with a person anymore. Either you have to fantasize about
the porn, and get those images there, or you have to watch porn first. Often
people can “complete the act”, but it’s not intense for them the way porn is.
You’ve rewired your brain, and now you’re salivating at the wrong thing.
As science and research have shown, when a person frequently
views porn, they are literally conditioning their neuroplastic (changeable)
brain to be aroused by that type of behaviour; even if it is showing things
that they originally thought to be disgusting or wrong. And because porn is an escalating addiction,
viewers inevitably end up viewing more graphic porn just because they need it
to get the same rush they got in the beginning. What starts off as viewing
teasing pictures quickly leads to watching hard-core videos. As time passes,
what naturally arouses the person starts to change and they begin to associate
sexual pleasure in real life with what they’ve been viewing in porn.
Porn Wrecks Your Libido- It’s only
natural, then, that many people who use porn in the past, or who use porn in
the present, have virtually no libido when it comes to making love to their
spouse. The spouse is not what turns them on, and so the natural drive that we
have for sex is transferred somewhere else.
Porn Makes You Sexually Lazy- In porn,
everyone is turned on all the time. You don’t have to make any effort to arouse
someone; it’s automatic. There is no foreplay in porn. And so if your spouse isn’t
aroused you start to think that it’s somehow their fault. There’s no
expectation that we will have to “woo” someone or be affectionate and help
jumpstart that arousal process. It’s almost as if we approach sex as two
different beings and we’re just using each other, rather than thinking of each
other. And thus we never learn how to please the other or become a good lover
because we’re always thinking that the other is somehow “frigid”. Sex is about
getting my needs met; it isn’t about meeting someone else’s needs or
experiencing something wonderful together.
Porn Turns “Making
Love” into a Foreign Concept- “Billions of people have had sex, but I actually
don’t know how many have made Love-Sheila Wray Gregorie”. Those arousal centers
and pleasure centers in our brain are supposed to associate sex with physical
pleasure and a real sense of intimacy. But the intimacy doesn’t happen with
porn, and so the pleasure is all that registers. Thus, sex becomes about the
body, and not about intimacy. In fact, the idea of being intimate isn’t even sexy
anymore; anonymous is what’s sexy. We may call “having sex” “making love”, but
in reality they aren’t necessarily the same thing. Someone who has used porn
extensively often has a difficult time experiencing any intimacy during sex,
because those arousal and pleasure centers zero in only on the body.
God made sex to actually unite us and draw us together; He
even gave us a bonding hormone that’s released at orgasm so that we’d feel
closer. But if that hormone is released when no one is present, it stops having
its effects. Sex no longer bonds you together.
To Be Contd!
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