Life is nothing but for the living. A lot of times we live life because we have been programmed or taught to accept life for what it is. Hence, we have too many confusion and misplaced teachings staring in our faces, with little or no help from anyone.
I once had a crush for this young CEO who is married, when I
discovered he was married it was ‘oh no, I wish he was single!’ being a man, he
let his thought out, but I could only offer friendship. We got talking one day
and after 2hours of chat, I realized how miserable he feels in his marriage
because he taught “I had to just ’marry”, even without much knowledge on the
subject, but down the road of the marriage he can’t fathom what has gone wrong.
But then whose job is it then?
On this write up, I will like to address the male and female
counterpart. So please ride with me on this journey as I plan to be objective
as I can be.
MALE:
It really
breaks my heart when I see men who don’t even realize they are one. They lack
the will power of being men, and most times thinks less of themselves. Sweeties,
there is something intriguing when a man is a man. It brings certain calmness
in a woman’s spirit to know her man is a man. Being a man as the world has made
you believe isn’t about having a something in-between your legs, because
animals have something in-between their legs too. Rather being a MAN is;
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BEING A
LEADER: A man is one who can run the affairs of his home. Has the vision in
which the home should run with. Real authority of a man’s leadership comes by
SERVING. In the same vein a man doesn’t want a mother figure or sister in his
life as a spouse, so also, a woman doesn’t need a bossy father or elder brother
figure in her life. She wants a husband who understands his place of leadership
and leads her in love.
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PROTECTION:
You are the foundation of your home and the pillar as well, when you can’t
protect your wife, who will? No woman wants a mama’s boy who runs to his mother
on how to run his home or who sits and discuss his wife’s flaws with friends
and family. If your wife has vulnerabilities which I am sure you have too,
please shield her from outside abuse.
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PROVIDER:
My mum often says, “There’s nothing more romantic than using something your
husband bought for you”. Listen guys,
there is nothing absolutely wrong in providing your wife with all the necessary
support she needs. If you can’t help her with house chores, cleaning, school-runs
and some other things please brother get her a cook, cleaner, laundry service,
driver…just make her life easy, let her bless God for bringing you to her life
rather than nagging and complaining daily.
NB; Guys, what every woman really wants, even though some can’t
articulate and put them in words most times. A woman wants a Father-figure in
her life, she wants a man who knows all her flaws, but yet loves her
unconditionally. She wants a man who looks out for her like a little baby
learning to walk and about to fall in her daddy’s presence. She wants a man who
will protect her publicly even when he knows she is wrong and corrects her
indoor. A woman doesn’t want a lazy man.
Let’s be sincere guys, you ask a lady to leave her father’s
comfort zone, drop his name and come to leave with you, yet you won’t treat her
like the queen she is, seriously all a woman want is LOVE, she can’t function
in a place void of love.
Lastly, try as much as you can and understand how women
function, before you approach any lady for a relationship, it will do you a
whole lot of good to appreciate her more.
HOW TO EARN A WOMAN’S RESPECT
- Demonstrate that you are the man and act out by producing the fruit.
- Go beyond fruitfulness to multiplication
- Be continuous in doing well. That’s to say don’t be so nice when you are wooing her and become different after marriage, also don’t be good only when you want her to open her legs. We don’t like when men do good once, we love consistency, so don’t start what you can’t finish.
- Prove to be the pillar to be relied on.
- Prove yourself over and over again.
Your authority comes by consistency and being yourself. You don’t
earn authority by a one man show. When you don’t earn respect or multiply your
good works the woman won’t respect you. Because DOMINION comes by MULTIPLICATION
and CONTINUITY maintains AUTHORITY.
You can be all a woman ever prayed for and desired only if
you would seek to add value to yourself daily and learn to SERVE, because true
leadership is SERVICE!
To be Contd...
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